'Quirkyalone' is Still Alone

I know people like this - they add drama where it isn't needed, over analyze and romanticize simple interactions preventing them from forming a trusting and therefore stable relationship. You can almost see the imaginary cameras they think are following them throughout life, the star of their own reality TV show.

Their expectations for what a relationship should be are so contorted and highly-strung that they're doomed to failure from the beginning. Thankfully they seem to attract each other and form a layer of social sediment separated from the bedrock that is practical people. Best of luck to them.

Those kinds of people (typically upper middle class Americans born in the 1980s or later) are so in love with themselves that they just have no room for falling in love with anyone else. It's easier to waste time on Tinder while obsessing about the best place to go for overpriced brunch and then cry about it to your therapist while your friends tell you that "omg you're the best in the world, of course you shouldn't settle for anything", than to pursue deeper, more meaningful interests and relationships.

My very unscientific and cynical view of that is that modern consumerist American culture is reaching the paroxysm of fuckery, encouraging everyone to treat their relationships and fellow humans as fungible goods that should be swapped out for this year's new, better, shinier model. My solution has just been to just not waste my time with people whose life tends to exhibit the patterns described in the article.

If you too belong to the higher upper middle class but can't stand that kind of crap, go volunteer and meet people from outside of your social strata. I've been dating someone from a very different, non western culture for the past month or two, whose struggles include more than just what they're going to post on their blog next, and it's a breath of fresh air in comparison.

YMMV.

Dead giveaway at "seem less datable than us".

It's called the option value of remaining single. People who perceive themselves as a catch often wait too long. Because, after all, almost every choice is imperfect in some way. And the more perfect the other may seem (according to "datability"), the more they too may be prone to overestimating the option value of remaining single.

So really it's self-centered melodrama.

If a person would rather be partnered, then there's usually some issue with the "quirks." You can't swim out of your lane.

The pains of being single often come up here, and to my memory such articles usually receive a positive response. Perhaps it is no coincidence that they are usually from the male point of view?