There will always be someone with a better job.
If you want a girl like you; make her smile.
If you want a girl like you; make her smile.
Yes, and if you want to win a race, simply go faster.
If you want to get a home run, simply hit the ball harder.
If you want to be a better programmer, just write better code.
If you want to make your startup succeed, just get more users.
If you want to make your dog start behaving, just train it.
and on and on and on.
For example, if you want to go faster you should probably run more.
I suggest the same approach to 'making her smile'. Go talk to girls until you find one that is fun to talk to.
It is important to remember that the girl you WANT to like you probably won't like you back. Get over it; don't waste your time on someone that doesn't even like you. If she doesn't like that you are a programmer, find someone who does. Rejection is part of. Get rejected today! It means you are trying....
The parent was more even handed when they mentioned confidence and social status. Yes, some girls maybe care about confidence a bit too much, but just the same, guys like myself can often do a poor job of acting confident (sometimes due to lack of effort conforming to norms).
There are two sides to the story.