Answer to clickbait title found 20 minutes in:
Opensourcing a project that becomes popular induces guilt, because it needs your time and attention to thrive, but you can't afford to give it, especially if you're interested in creating other things.
Opensourcing a project that becomes popular induces guilt, because it needs your time and attention to thrive, but you can't afford to give it, especially if you're interested in creating other things.
By definition, the title of a talk given at a conference can't be clickbait.
Furthermore, how can you claim the title's content wasn't represented until 20 mins in? The title has two parts, one of which you seem to completely ignore.
The "why do I feel so guilty?" portion of this title does not efficiently convey the content of the talk and instead preys upon the reader's fear, uncertainty, and curiosity. When we read this title we say to ourselves, "Hey, I use/make open source software! What should I feel guilty about?". This does generate interest, but at the expense of being less descriptive than a more prosaic title would have been.
If I were at a conference and saw this title without an abstract, I'd consider it unprofessional. It really is "clickbait" in the truest sense of the word, only that "clicking" in the context of a conference takes half an hour of my time and might prevent me from attending another talk that I would have been more interested in, had I not been led astray by an intentionally seductive and vague title.
It is entirely appropriate to call this title "clickbait".
The only guilt should come from just straight up abandoning the project. Unfortunately the open-source world is chock full of those.
To suggest I should feel guilt for admitting I can't maintain all the personal code I've opensourced for other users suggests I ought to have kept it closed source, which seems like a net loss all around.
All you have to do is find someone else to lead (or at least maintain) the project before moving onto something else.
Fortunately, someone offered to take it up recently so I feel much better now.