> just my being a "white NT cishet male" is offensive to some people

No, it isn't. They are offended by something else about you.

Have you tried not taking crazy people seriously? Stop feeling like a victim.

What you just said is not a real position that anyone has (in large enough numbers to be worth talking about). The part where you don't take people seriously is the thing that is offensive. You might be confused because people talk about white males as being the only people who are in a position to completely ignore the feelings of everyone else if they choose to, as you seem to have chosen to do. But to be clear, it's not racism/sexism directed against you, it's a dislike of something that you specifically do.

Have you ever thought why that is?

I'm a "white NT cishet male", as well, and at a glance, you can't tell the decent people from the awful ones. It's about behavior, and in a space where most people who look like us act like shit, it's not unreasonable to generalize a lack of trust. It's not on them to be understanding, it's on _us_. because we're in the position of privilege in this situation.