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This is true when you're just looking for a quick fuck. But as someone in a long term relationship, believe me, superficial qualities matter a lot less. My wife is beautiful, but so were other girls I dated. I stuck with my wife because we make a good team, and she shares my values.

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I disagree that the qualities one wants in a long term relationship are not obvious with quite short interaction. It's not mere superficiality. You can suss out a person's character very quickly. Instincts are usually right.

Tell that to everyone who's been in a relationship for 6 months before breaking up because "he/she seemed so perfect when I met them"

That's because people misrepresent themselves online and offline. Reminds me of the Chris Rock quote:

"When you meet somebody for the first time, you're not meeting them. You're meeting their representative."

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