I often wish for a pared down database interaction API (I hesitate to call it an ORM) that just exposes raw data, and provides a convenient query interface (like AR does, but also like raw arel). Maybe this is what Sequel does, and I should be using that, I'm not sure. I was excited about datamapper2 and I've looked at ROM[0], but I'm not sure it's what I'm dreaming of. I could probably cobble it together by using existing database driver gems and arel directly. Unfortunately, as is usually the case when considering venturing off the beaten path of Rails, this sort of thing would give up a lot of the "conventions" advantages of Rails. AR pretty much is Rails.
[0]: http://rom-rb.org/