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Men face the same value issues as well, that door definitely swings both ways.

Absolutely. Anyone who doesn't want to feel like a commodity product that gets evaluated in two seconds should not be on Tinder.

But I find it strange that the women are apparently such willing participants. If they don't want to get dick pics from the "fuckboys" (as the article calls them), why are they hanging out online with these people?

People like to complain even when they create their own problems.

And this is the entire article in a sentence. Bravo.

Wow, what a line.

"God laughs at people who complain about consequences, the cause of which they cherish" - Bossuet (circ. 1680).

This is the kind of mentality that allows Wall Street and Silicon Valley to take advantage of people, who don't know any better what problems they are creating for themselves.

With it "smart" people, don't have to feel responsible for what they get "dumb" people to do.

Rubes should be chastised for being rubes. The probability's higher that a rube can learn to understand the losing nature of their position than that a con will give up the benefits of theirs.

> why are they hanging out online with these people?

hanging out, in some cases, for twenty hours a day, according to the article.

> feel like a commodity product that gets evaluated in two seconds

Everybody constantly gets evaluated in two seconds. Mates very nearly are commodities. People claiming otherwise are just uggos, or class-ists.

Once we get video of some interaction + voice + smell, that's really 99% of the mating game. Nobody really gives a shit about anybody's resume. They may claim to when asked, but in reality we're dealing with systems much lower down towards the cerebellum.

I find it interesting that usually those who claim simple explanations for mating choice are those who are least likely to benefit from this knowledge.

You're being cryptic and I don't understand. I'll assume you're ugly and dress poorly.

I also wear glasses and drive a sports car. This last part is due to my small penis, which is also known to cause hunting and libertarianism.

Thinking caps come in a range of fashion colors.

This is true when you're just looking for a quick fuck. But as someone in a long term relationship, believe me, superficial qualities matter a lot less. My wife is beautiful, but so were other girls I dated. I stuck with my wife because we make a good team, and she shares my values.

I disagree that the qualities one wants in a long term relationship are not obvious with quite short interaction. It's not mere superficiality. You can suss out a person's character very quickly. Instincts are usually right.

Tell that to everyone who's been in a relationship for 6 months before breaking up because "he/she seemed so perfect when I met them"

That's because people misrepresent themselves online and offline. Reminds me of the Chris Rock quote:

"When you meet somebody for the first time, you're not meeting them. You're meeting their representative."

Nothing strange about it. Don't listen to what women say, but watch what they do. When dealing with women you always have to keep that in mind. For instance, I have this one rather hot friend. She hangs out with a bunch of guys who want to sleep with her. Yet, she complains that all of her male friends want to sleep with her. Yet, she still hangs out with them. Now why would she do that? Attention and validation. She may not want to sleep with most of those guys, but she likes the attention that she receives from them. It's like the episode of The King of Queens when Carrie was upset that the construction workers didn't catcall her. It's not that she enjoyed being catcalled, but that those guys no longer found her sexually desirable.

The women on Tinder, and every other online dating site, they don't all want dick pics. It does get annoying. But, they still like to feel desired, and getting a bunch of responses from men validates that a woman is still sexually viable, attractive, and that men want her. You can say that it's a confidence booster.

"fuckboys" was/is a very denigratory term for a gay male last time I checked

Yep, I have several attractive female friends who keep multiple guys round as "options." The guys of course don't realize they're being led on and they believe they have a real shot at something more meaningful.

Sex and sexuality are ultimately about power. People who have high sexual value can totally let that power get to their heads and start taking advantage of others. This isn't gender-specific, but simply the way the world works.

This. There is another double-standard at play that is often ignored. Women are just as capable (and willing) as men at keeping options, having backups, and upgrading to something better. A number of my female friends are constantly complaining about not being able to meet a guy who wants a relationship, and then continue to spend most of their dating energy on Tinder, while also keeping open several options constantly.

This article is super one-sided and makes it sound like all these women in New York have no choice but to be on Tinder. Can't have it both ways.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy

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